Hmm... I need to find out myself. I don't know what is the answer. I'll do some research in Google and get back to you if I find an good answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably can help you..
I eonhad a lot of last meals with my daughter...and was so disappointed when I stepped on the surgeons scale and it read that I had gained 40 lbs instead of loosing it (I was suppose to loose 15 lbs before.
) The good thing about my surgeon was that he understood...it didn't make it right at all, and it was out of fear that I ate like I did. I know that. I was an emotional eater, and when I worry I eat...to say the least...I love food...there isn't a day that goes by that I dont think about it...BUT Since GBS ....IT DOESN'T HAVE A HOLD ON ME ANYMORE, THAT BOND IS BROKEN A NEW LIFE HEALTHIER ONE HAS EMERGED..
I love this post Misa we should NOT judge other people and their paths they have taken. We are all here for the same reason. If anyone of us was so smart or know the answer to everything we wouldn't be here. This is a journey for everyone in their own way I don't need anyone to tell me what I am doing or have done us wrong I need (key word here people) SUPPORT! I will succeed and so will you. Here is to you girl for hitting the nail on the head...
The first step in treating addiction is admitting that you are dependent and that dependence has caused your life to become unmanageable..
Crazy behaviors are addressed in subsequent steps that address "returning to sanity," indicative that our behavior is crazy. Inevitably, we experience anger, jealousy, and minimizing others to assuage our own lack of.
, all symptoms of the addict's irrational need to control others, since we have no control of ourselves..
The answer? Finding a Higher Power, of our own understanding, turning the whole mess over, and making amends to others..
The transitional process of refocusing on the impact of our behaviors that harm others vs the litany of wrongs done to us, is what helps us begin to change..
Great topic and good post. Thanks!..
Love your post. You know Misa, I think we need both. Some people need a kick in the butt to tell them they are a dunderhead. While others just need to know they aren't alone and are still accepted. I.
To see both factions posted as we are now because some days I need a kick and some days I need a hug. Thanks to all of you beautiful wonderful people on here. Specially to you today Misa...
The first step in solving a problem is admitting there IS a problem....
When you understand you have one...then it is easier to get a grip on it...whatever "it" may be....
Food is the one "drug" we cannot.
...thats why it is so damn hard to conquer...and it truely takes the strength of ten giants to keep it under control...
I am an addict too. I know it. I have really good days and really bad days. I am 5 months out and still in therapy. I have days where I do so good with my eating, and I have days when I eat too much, even if it is a protein or something I am allowed to have. I still often eat too fast.
I am an emotional eater, so if I"m happy I want to eat, if I'm sad I want to eat, if I'm anxious I want to eat, etc. I still haven't found a replacement for food, but I am STILL trying. I think that's the most important thing. NOT to give up. To keep going forward.
I try to put the bad days behind me...
I am not an addict, I can quit anytime I want too :).. But really I was more of a cheater; in fact I cheated on my wife so many times she should have left me. I cheated on her by seeing Sarah Lee, Dolly Madison, Wendys drive through (insert hot and juicy joke here). GBS has been a tool that helped me kick these mistresses to the curb. Do I still think about them, sure I do. But they dont control me anymore, thanks to my lifestyle change...
Thank you Misa for bringing this topic to the board. I am an emotional eater and I am still pre op. I am trying everyday to not let Medifast food control me. I agree that everyone journey is different and that all our roads still lead to the same place.... a healthy life. I have been so angry the past few weeks my husband said to me last night that he didn't know who I was.
It hit home with me when you said "when your mad at the outside, look inside." Guess I have to get these crazy emotions under control... it is hard when your best friend was Medifast food and now by my choice it is not. Thank you again for sharing..
Hello, My name is Misa and....
I am an addict..
Food was my first drug of choice..
I'm guessing I am not alone in this..
When I was approaching my 2 weeks of presurgical liquid dieting I found myself in the drive through lane at McDonalds more times than I had been in the previous 5 years combined..
I HAD TO SAY GOODBYE! I.
T's as simple as that. I knew what I was doing. I was conscious that I was having my last hurrah so to speak. Why McDonalds when I hadn't been going there for years? They have the best french fries in the world! Admit it. They do! And I threw in a hot fudge sundae for the last 5 times I went through the damned drive through. I knew sugar was going to be a thing of my past very soon as well so I was going to have it dammit! I sat in the parking lot and watched the people who were not going to have.
Gastric bypass surgery.
Waddle into McDonalds while I ate every last french fry in the bag and licked the lid of the hot fudge sundae cup clean. I felt sadness and fear and doubt and relief and joy and.
And promise and touched into parts of why I ate that were so buried inside me that I hadf forgotten them. It was necessary FOR ME to have those last moments of seeing my insanity and choosing to.
On the other hand, I have been a Medifast food nazi too. I have been so judgemental of my partner and what she is choosing to eat both before and after.
Boy, do I have an ego or what! Who do I think I am to tell her what is the right thing to eat or not eat. Look at me. I'm less than a week out and why do I think I have any valuable experience to share? If I was at a recovery meeting, the old timers would tell me to sit down and shut up and listen, because I don't have any experience, strengtrh or.
To share, I only know about addiction..
Here is my opinion. We can share what is happening with us. We can share what we are feeling about it. But can we in good conscious, share that anothers path is misguided, stupid, wrong or less valid than ours?.
Not this girl... Not anymore....
If I ask you for your take on something, give it to me. If I don't maybe this is a forum where I can share my newbie status, my confusion, my joy, my wow moments, my appreciation for you, my troubles, my ahas, my boo hoos, my fears, my journey, my funny pictures, my plans, my stumbles, my goals, my failures and my successes..
Seems there has been a lot of pissyness floating around lately. Both in me and around me. My therapist tells me when I am mad at the outside, look inside. What's really going on that I might not have been able to or want to look at? That is where I will find my.... Peace, Misa..
There is a lot of religion (IMHO, TOO much) in groups of overeaters. "Pray for this, and God that"...that's not necessarily Spirituality, but can rather be indicative of religious addiction which is co-morbid with eating disorders/ addictions. Religion can be just nother way we try to exert power over our powerless lives!.
Spirituality is what fills the hole we attempt to fill with Medifast food and other drugs and behaviors. "Higher Power" may be a religious figure, but is, more often, an internal dialogue that we have with an internal power that guides our lives..
Focusing on that quiet internal relationship tends to reduce our sefishness and increase our selflessness and dedication to others..
"Giving back," sticking around after you get yours, to help others who need our support, is a spiritual act of great importance to recovery communities!..
I like your post, but I also like the kick in the butt posts, because, as tekwriter said, I often need both. One day a hug, the next a reality check. That's what makes this group so valuable to me. Keep it all coming...
Hi my neame is Liz and I am a Popeye's fried chicken addict.
I have been doing pretty good sticking to my pre surg diet....not eating a lot of stuff that is bad for me.........
.....and then I pass my favorite Popeyes....and I justify one last peice or two.....really I say to myself...this will be the last time...really.....I willl make up for it..............
At least I am taking the skin off ( most of the time)...and I am down 12 pounds.....but...... I still have to fight going in there....I actually celebrate eveytime I drive past without stopping......
I know after.
I will not have the choice...or I will throw up....but it is frustrating that as a grown woman...a fried chicken thigh has more power over me then good health....
Well, that's the ugly truth and I said it..............liz..
Liz as a fellow former Popeye's sneaker....you've got it all wrong! You go for the red beans and rice and "Oh, I guess a little chicken won't hurt..." lol..
Exactly Misa.... I wonder if some of us know so much, and have all the answers why we ever needed GBS in the first place...
What your therapist said is so true! I call it mirror, mirror. We Get the chance day by day, moment by moment to heal another part of ourselves through this process. Thanks for sharing!..
Are you my long lost sister or are you in my brain, too? I share the same feelings, especially with Medifast food addiction. We;ve got to lean on each other for support and kick the BS together! ((HUGS)).