Hmm... I need to find out myself. I don't know what is the right answer. I'll do some research in Google and get back to you if I bump into an answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably could help you..
My surgeon said not to do any major changes in my life other than the weight loss the first year I also heard this in my support group from many people because we are changing inward and outward for OURSELVES and that should take 1st stage! It sounds like your friend could have had an issue with your weight, but it could also be that he just wasn't ready to be in a relationship at the time...or really scared to loose the awesome bond you two have. I would say don't judge...just be his friend and see where it goes, You might be pleasantly surprised!.
Best of Luck to you!.
Don't sell your new self short, maybe the guy just loves you more since you love yourself more! Trite but maybe true? Give the guy the benifit of the doubt for hanging out with obviously a pretty fatty?.
Tricky one! We cannot judge a person for wanting us to be thinner, after all we want to be thinner ourselves! However, I do wonder if it is a sign of weakness when someone can't get over a size issue if they really like us. I married my husband at my biggest and although he'd never dated a big girl before, he has always been positively encouraging about my looks. Now I'm losing weight he has achieved the right balance of oohs and ahhs, without diminishing the "I've always loved how you look" attitude. I know he really loves the new me, but I know equally, he loved the old me too..
Should you take this any further, then might you wonder if his feelings would change with your size? Despite that, with the feelings that you have for him, it may be too tempting not to go there..
If that happens, enjoy!! :)..
I have to agree with Lu, maybe it's all innocent and he just loves you more now because you love yourself and have a more positive personality with the new you. Maybe I am just a romantic, but I would say go with the flow, not making any big decisions and just let whatever happen, happen...
Have you considered that there may be valid weight-related reasons why he has hesitated? I know that for myself, obesity has been a sign that I do not have myself emotionally all together. Maybe he's been waiting to see if you really are ready for a deeper commitment, if you can manage it....Just a thought. When the two of you are ready for a frank.
, I'd talk it out. In the meantime, I'd be grateful for a good friend. Don't push him away. Just make him wait until you are sure that you are ready...
You say you and this man were so close and have such a great bond to me that means you should be able to be direct with him and come right out and ask him if him changing and wanting to take things to a new level is because of the weight loss and see how he responds. Anyone worth spending time with and worth "loving" should be someone you can be comfortable to say anything to!..
You guys are the BEST!!!! I love that I can talk about something that is bothering me and get other opinions from people that have or are going thru what I went thru. I think that everyone's input is valuable, and I have decided to just go with the flow. Not be too over the top, and at the same time not push him away. The funny thing is that I just got off the phone with him, and our conversation led him to say, "I think you are beautiful just the way you r, you dont need to lose anymore weight!" It made me feel a lot better, because though I have lost quite a bit, I am still overweight and have much more to lose. Thanks again everyone! :)..
I have heard psychologists and sexologists say that men are a little bit uncontrolled when it comes to visual stimulation...and they are just made that way... this gentleman maybe cant help himself... or maybe the relationship is just ripening to this point...i also read that men are turned on by women trying to take care of themselves and look pretty if they think it may be directed at them...just makes them feel loved...oh come on we don't love them for their money, but if they work hard and show a desire to provide for us...we love it..