I would like to know the answer too. Anyone here know what is the answer. I'll do some research in Google and get back to you if I got an good answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably can help you..
You do not need to say anything...just being there, holding his hand, bringing him a favorite book or treat, smiling for him is all a lot of people need. They know you are sad. If he is beyond any of the above mentioned, just sitting beside him holding his hand will speak volumes to him even if he does not respond....thinking and praying for you Joma. We don't want to see them suffer, but we hate that they have to.
I am so sorry about the loss of your grandmother and now your grandfather's illness. I lost my gramps at the age of 95 in March..
It probably took a lot out of you when your grandmother passed away and now your grandfather's failing health is probably just opening up those painful feelings - or more likely adding to the already STILL painful feelings. I can see how it is difficult for you to watch your grandfather suffer after dealing with that. I don't know that I could have gone through that again in such a short amount of time..
But with that being said, as painful as it was, my most precious memories are of how happy it made him for me to be there with him, caring for him, giving him just a little bit of happiness in his time of suffering..
No one can tell you what to do. Listen to your heart. I think you answered yourself when you said you know you will regret it if you you don't spend time with him....
I will keep you and him in my prayers...
You won't get much more time to spend time with him, so do it now. You may be surprised at how you can both comfort each other right now. You may find that he's at peace with where he is in this process and that he'll cherish your presence. Nobody ever said they wished they had spent less time with a loved one who was dying..
And yes, I agree w/ Deardarlink - care for yourself as well. Arrange your time so that you still can eat/drink and rest when you need to...
I know how hard this can be. I lost my Grandpa two years ago at the age of 93. He was in a nursing home and was very irritable. However when I came in to sit with him he would calm down. He hadn't talked for about 6 months at this point. So, I would just hold his hand.
I was holding his hand when he passed away. Even though this was a very tough thing I am able to look back now and know that I was there for him clear to the end. You will be blessed by the time you spend with your grandpa...
When I am at a loss for words, that is what I say. "i'm at a loss for words. I wish there was something I could say to make this better, etc.". When my grandma was in a nursing home, I use to stroke her arm or brush her hair. Sometimes, I would put down the bed rail and lay down next to her. I would also tell her about fond memories I had of her.
I'm sorry to hear about your losses. Pray for guidance and words - that has helped me too...
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and now your grandfather being ill. Must be very tough not nearly healing from one and then the other. Be happy that you had them in your life :) remember the good times. If you have them share memories with your grandfather as how special he is and the wonderful things about grandma too. If he believes in God it might be a good time to read some scripture to him, some of the ones of comfort..
I agree with your belief that you will regret it if you dont spend time with him :(.
I wish you luck in all of it...
My grandmother passed away last year, 2 days before my birthday..
One thing I am grateful for, aside from her being out of pain, is that just a few days before that I had been to see her while she was coherent and able to understand me when I said, 'I love you' and kissed her goodbye. She said, 'I love you honey' and that was the last time I spoke to her. (Man, it hit me really hard just now typing that.).
Anyway, spend time with him while you can or you will regret it. I promise..
Hi Joma: I've lost some people I love, and the one thing that I regret was that sometimes, I didn't listen enough. Perhaps if you just hang out with him and rather than you doing the.
, let him talk. Tell him that if he wants to talk about anything, you're there to listen..
Is a great gift, and letting him know that you'll listen to whatever he's feeling, whatever is on his mind, can be a comfort to him...
I am so sorry for your loss and that your grandfather is so sick. I don't have any new advice, to offer. You've heard the best already from everyone else. Just get out and go spend time with him. You don't want to regret it later that you didn't!.
Please, take care of yourself too!.
Hugs and Prayers to you,.