Hmm... I need to find out myself. I don't know what is the answer to that question. I'll do some research and get back to you if I bump into an decent answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably could give you help..
People who talk about the "easy way" were also the ones who were stabbing us in the back that we were "chips munching fatties!" It's discrimination, born of ignorance..
You have just discovered that there are bigots in our families. Surprise! I had to have a come to Jesus talk with my only first cousin, who is like a sister. We didn't speak for a year and a half. She came back and made up, but I will never give her, or anyone else power over me in my personal life..
You don't need her permission or approval! Give yourself the credit you deserve and write her, telling her why you made this decision and that she can ask any questions..
But make it clear this is your life and you will not tolerate her meddling in your family relationships and your personal life!..
We can't pick our family, darn.....
Sounds like your Mom is very supportive. Sounds like your cousin needs to get a life and let you live yours. You made a decision to change your life. Not an easy thing to do. I would write her a letter and tell her how you feel. Also tell her that you are filling your life with positive things and if she can't be positive and accept your decision, then keep her opinions to herself.
Hang in there!..
It is sad that your cousin can't be happy for your improved life and health. Perhaps a "heart to heart" talk, as Laura suggested, would help. Remember that you have the support of this group. We all know it isn't "the easy way out" and many have had the same experience of feeling betrayed. Keep on track and continue to follow your program..
I too, have had a surprise or two, with the reactions of someone I had thought would be supportive. It does throw you off balance, and can be disappointing and upsetting, as you well know. I love Laurarn's comment that this is a choice you made, for your health and for you. Not promoting it to the world, but for you it's the best choice. For me it was also..
If you asked most anyone who knows me well, they'd tell you I was always dieting, always resisting deserts, even when at parties where everyone else was having them. I'd do well, them maybe give in for a few days, and so on went the pattern the past many years. Having this tool has allowed me to see I can take charge of my weight, and there for my life again, and it's been a good choice for me..
I know it's hurtful, even when you feel you did the right thing for yourself. Fact is people can disappoint us, and many can not understand all that went into the thought process , testing, battles within ourselves and finally.
For improved health and quality of life, by having the.
We have to acknowledge it...then move on..
Hurtful as it may be, it isn't going to change your choice, and I'd say consider living as a testimony to how it improved your life. She may change her tone one day. Even if she doesn't...it's you living your life for you...not her...
Sad to say but some family just really suck and I know what your going threw my dad has been trying to sabatage me since my.
And let me just say I am too pig headed and I'll be damned that all this hard work I am doing is going to be ruined by him and I do mean hard work everything we go threw to maintain our weight is hard work and not an easy way out and this cousin of yours well in all honesty the hell with her if she really cared she would want to try to do things to help you not talk sh*t behind your back so just remember it does hurt like hell but you now see her true colors. Everyone on this website is here for you so hold your head up high and be proud of the choice you made..
Ignorance with a capital "I" for sure..
I now know that I was beating my head aginst a brick wall constantly dieting, always cutting myself down for being so weak and not being able to get it together..
In most parts of my life I am a force to be reckoned with, why was I so weak when it came to this..
If I was just more disapplined, like your cousin..
I now know I was never going to lose this weight on my own..
This is not the easy way out..
For most of us it is... The only way out..
Your cousin doesn't understand this and she doesn't have to..
You can not change or control the way others think so don't bother trying..
As Laura says , a talk may be benificial but if your cousin doesn't support you or can't understand then that will have to be her problem..
At least you have accepted responsibilty for your own problem and taken a courageous step for change in your life..
If your cousin truely cares she will come to see that it doesn't matter how you got healthy. It only matters that you are healthy...
I've said this once but I'll repeat it for your, "unlike friends we don't get to pick our family". So so sad but true. Now, so you've been lurking for awhile here I assume you've seen how this once in a lifetime opportunity has changes so many hundreds of lives from the life you are presently trapped into the live that we all now have. Are you living a complete heathty, happy and active existence? If so listen to the idiot but if you wanna climb the highest mt in America follow us to the high ground and.
The nay Sayers to their twinkies..
Good luck read my story and you decide what kind of life you want fo the rest of time..
Just do it and make yourself proud of at least one thing in your life!..
I've run into that attitude as well, and what I've noticed about those who are judgmental and negative about GBS is this a) they have never been in our shoes and don't have a clue how difficult it is to recover from obesity; and b) they are likewise clueless about GBS. Anyone who thinks that this is EASY is just plain nuts. It takes a lot of commitment and discpline to succeed with it. Maybe you could begin a dialog with your cousin by e-mail here some of our posts here....(LOL)...
You know, I am dealing with something similar with a friend who, while I thought this person would be supportive, decided instead to say that.
Was "cheating" and "the easy way out".... it threw me for a loop as well, but the fact of the matter is that 1. This is about me and what I want for myself and the rest of my life. and 2. I have great support elsewhere so 1 person is NOT going to rain on my parade..
What really just amazed me about the whole situation is this is someone who has seen me struggle with my weight (she struggles as well) ... someone who I hired a.
With, exercised with, dieted with - all for losing and then regaining the same 20 lbs I always lose and regain..
Anyway, she dismissed it and moved on, wasnt willing to discuss and quite frankly, I do not have any need to justify my decisions and choices to her. While it is hurtful and surprising, just remember - you made your decision because it was right for you and about you and improving your life. You dont need your cousins approval..
Congratulations on your weight loss!..
To be honest, Im a lurker, sitting in the background.
Everyones posts for the past year. Wow, it's been that long already....Ive learned alot, and frequently do searches based on questions and concerns since my.
I apologize in advance for my rambling.... Tonight I had a situation that really threw me off. I was at a family dinner and was feeing very uncomfortable with a certain cousin from out of town that I had "thought" up until today had been very supportive of my.
She has always been a health and fitness freak but I had never really felt intimidated by this. She was acting very distant and I was feeling almost deliberately ignored. I thought I was imagining things and went home. I expressed my concerns to my mom later and was told, with great regret, that this cousin, who Ive always felt was supportive of my choices, had in fact made a comment to her a year ago, that "I could have done it on my own, that I didnt have to resort to such a drastic.
." My mom chose not to tell me as she was afraid to hurt my feelings, as this preconception that I was taking the "easy way out" is what I was afraid of.... I am very happy she didnt tell me this sooner, as this would have destroyed me sooner... This definately explains alot regarding my cousins behaviour, but I am soooo upset. To be honest, this post doesnt come close to the feeling that Ive been so betrayed by such a close member of my family. I understand you cand pick your family but to be honest I feel like Ive been kicked in the stomach after losing !!% pounds......
I am in a truly cranky mood today, so I would call my cousin tell her that if you think GBS is an easy way then you truly know nothing about the disease of obesity. When you are ready to learn and be helpful to me, give me a call...
You do not have to justify yourself to anyone. More power to those who are with you and pity on those who simply "don't get it." This was done for your health not done in vain..
I can understand your frustration as I thought my parents would be supportive of my decision. I had.
Apnea, asthma, borderline diabetic, and joint problems but I took the easy way out? I don't think so I saved my life. I did something so that I could be around for my family..
I think is so funny how people say that we took the easy way out. This was an easy decision to make (given the complications), choosing to get up every morning to.
, choosing to weigh and measure foods, watching portions, calories, protein intake this is all so very easy for us. Until they are in our shoes no one can judge us..
I personally wouldnt it take it personal as this.
Is misconstrued. People who don't know about it or fear the unknown are very quick to jump in to conclusions that they do not know..
Take it with a grain of salt and remember why you did this. A lot of times we tend to look for support from those around those however this is our journey and only you can make this work for you..
Best Wishes to You and Keep Your Head Up..
First of all, if your cousin has always been a health and fitness nut she probably was never in the position where she needed to lose a significant amount of weight. Therefore she cannot ever understand your journey. Ever! Secondly, you can gain a little power in the situation by determining that you don't need her approval to feel good about what you did. You made the best decision for you. You were the one living in your body and dealing with the excess weight. I am only guessing but I'm sure your cousin feels insecure and is threatened by your weight loss.
Be yourself - your beautiful, confident self and carry on like her opinion is meaningless. And speak up for yourself the next time you see her. Talk about anything you like -.
Weight loss topics if you need to, but let her see your confidence and that you aren't looking for her to pay attention to you or grant approval, but simply enjoy spending time with your family...
I agree with everybody..... don't give your cousin any power to make you feel bad about your decision, or her lack of support..... If she had a clue about what she was.
About, she would not have made any of those comments...... and if she was looking out for your best interest, she would support you in any decision you made. Sounds to me like her reaction is more about her and not you.... NOW she is not the only health and fitness freak in the family, and you have eclipsed her.....she might just feel a little jealous or competitive......
Perhaps you could be the mature person in this situation and just ignore her negativity....treat her with love...and giver her time to get over whatever it is she is feeling......
Just a thought....liz..
I am sorry but that is what some people think. However they are wrong! Studies show that 98 percent of people cannot lose and keep weight off...without wls. The people we read about in magazines that have done so well....they are very unusual. There have been two genes identified with obesity...so it is practically a miracle to defeat obesity....and this.
As far as I am concerned is a near miracle. I haven"t had my.
Yet but this is not the easy way out...it has already been a lot of work...yes this is not the easy way out ...just the way that works..
So very sad... are we related with the same cousin that asked me "are you sure you dont want a bite of this" (brownie with whipped cream) as she held it an inch from my mouth. sad people try to make us worse to make themselves feel better..
Continue to lose, do what you go to do in spite of her comments..